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October 16, 2025 edition
This week I interview journalist and author Olga Khazan about her new book on personality change, Me, But Better.
We talk about the Big Five traits—openness, conscientiousness, extraversion/introversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism—and how they play out in ordinary life rather than in personality quizzes. Olga explains what research actually shows about how much you can change, how anxiety and depression tie into neuroticism, and why introversion can quietly turn into isolation. We also discuss everyone’s favorite personality expert, Carl Jung, the politics of “openness,” what’s happened to our social lives since the pandemic, and how the culture of “self-care” has blurred into hiding from the world.
Other threads include:
The science behind gradual, behavioral change instead of “life hacks”
How “fake it till you make it” can work without faking yourself entirely
Gender differences in agreeableness and the social cost of being direct
Why liberals often score higher on neuroticism—and what that might really mean
The relationship between personality, motherhood, and the urge to optimize everything
Guest Bio:
Olga Khazan is a staff writer for The Atlantic and the author, previously, of Weird. She is a two-time recipient of journalism fellowships from the International Reporting Project and the winner of the 2017 National Headliner Award for Magazine Online Writing.
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