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Sasha Stone's avatar

This is lovely writing.

As an older person now with lots of regrets, the one thing I know for sure is that time passes and we all die and that's that. It doesn't really matter that much how we spend our lives ultimately. I look at Agatha Christie and think wow, they're changing her writing so younger generations will want to read her but they never will anyway because time passes and we die and that's that.

As much as I wanted a baby (and I did have one child) I wasn't prepared for the pain that followed. I was a single mother and am still single. Meaning, I didn't really have a life before I had a baby. Then she was my whole life, then she left and now she's living her own life and I'm stuck back where I was before. So even though I am a mother -- I am really just a person now. Writing. Being alone, etc. It's almost as if I never had a kid at all. This was completely unexpected outcome...I guess I could hover around her at all times and never let her go but all I would be doing was trying to fill a void in myself... Your complicated feelings about this subject resonated. Thank you.

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aVeryGoodTyrone's avatar

"[P]ersonal pain can lead to a life of obsessive confirmation bias" -- boy howdy!

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